Warren Farrell Quotes

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If we penalize mothers for denial of visitation time we must also penalize fathers who don't show up for visitation time. The issue is not fathers' rights to visitation time, but both parents obligations to their children. The issue is how to make both parents real parents despite what parenting was never designed to deal with — divorce.

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Those feminists who say that masculinity is about men believing they can batter women display the deepest ignorance possible about men and masculinity.

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In the future, women will increasingly want men who can nurture them and connect with them.

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Letting men die is a money-saving device. Safety costs money… as one safety official put it, 'When everything is hurry, hurry, hurry, when you start pressuring people and taking shortcuts, things can go wrong. And then people die.' No. And then men die.

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When I see dads being most effective with children, it is usually when they have an intuitive understanding that, for example, the car trip to and from the soccer game is potentially as important as the game itself.

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A single woman who supports herself is called a career woman, while a single man who supports himself is called a playboy…Ironically, a woman who commits and becomes financially dependent is considered more mature than a man who does not commit but is financially independent.

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All societies that have survived have survived based on their ability to prepare their sons to be disposable, in war and at work—and therefore as dads.

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Since no one is always right, always being right is really a role model for his children feeling inadequate.

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Feminists often discuss women having two jobs: work and children. True. But no one discusses those divorced and remarried men who have three jobs: work, and two sets of children to nurture and financially support.

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Both sexes had an unconscious investment in keeping men from expressing feelings of fear and vulnerability.

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There is virtually no funding to study the validity of the more muted complaints of men: to study when a false accusation is being used as a weapon to keep the children from dad; or when the child is being bad-mouthed by the other parent; or when access to the child is being prevented; or when statistics about deadbeat dads are including men who are dead, unemployed, or denied their children; or when men are victims of domestic violence.

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How can I call security a woman's primary fantasy if I am saying it is also her primary need? Because while her primary need is the security of a home and a family circle, her primary fantasy is that someone else will earn enough to pay for them. Hence the focus of 2 billion women on the latest royal wedding.

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The hard part (of communication) is hearing criticism so it can be easily given.

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When we train men for war, we lose some part of every man we train — even if we win the war. When we train men to be better nurturers, even men who fail the course will have won. And so will every child they ever meet. Training men to love is a nation's best investment.

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From the male perspective, when commitment is associated with diamonds and mortgages, promises of love can feel like promises of payment.

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What Men Would Say When Male-Bashing Is Called Funny, But Female-Bashing Is Called Sexist

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Women's vulnerability confessing their desire to see men as a success object is matched by men's confession of compulsiveness of sexual desire for women.

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Veterans of every war suffer Battered Man Syndrome in the form of posttraumatic stress disorder. The emotional consequences are also with them for years. But if a sufferer killed Admiral Zumwalt for ordering the spraying of Agent Orange, he would be convicted for murder. Men who suffer Battered Man Syndrome are not allowed to attack their abuser and call it self-defense.

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When I lose my larger sense of supporting people to be their best, I lessen my contact with the God inside me.

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Perhaps the most prevailing expectation of men is our Superman expectation: the fear we are merely Clark Kents who won't be accepted unless we are a Superman.

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The motto of feminists: There is never an excuse for hitting a woman. Shouldn't it be, There is never an excuse for hitting. ?

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In a Stage I survival-focused world, a father needed to be a problem-solver. He needed to tough it out by denying feelings. He needed to persuade, argue, debate, set rules, distinguish right from wrong without flexibility. These skills made him eligible, they brought him a wife and children. In every sense of the word, these skills were his relationship language. Problem is, toughing it out fed his loved ones' mouths, but didn't nurture his loved ones' souls.

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In a democracy, a government's policies are rarely questioned until the underlying assumptions that create them are questioned.

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Male makeup is men's titles, status and paying for dates. Makeup is what both sexes use to bridge the gap between the power they have and the power they'd like to have. Both male and female makeup are compensations for feelings of powerlessness.

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In order to connect and nurture, it is not just helpful to be in touch with feelings, it is necessary. So men's first job – their next evolutionary strategy – involves being in touch with their feelings.

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Solutions: (...) Seek an understanding of the other sex's best intent.

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If we are to inspire men to father it also helps to stop reflexively condemning men as afraid of commitment and address what they are afraid of. –page246.

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By the 1970s, the American woman was being called 'liberated' or 'superwoman' while the American man was being called 'baby killer' if he fought in Vietnam, 'traitor' if he protested, or 'apathetic' if he did neither. Even men who came home paraplegics were literally spit on.

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Every day, almost as many men are killed at work as were killed during the average day in Vietnam. For men, there are, in essence, three male-only drafts: the draft of men to all the wars; the draft of Everyman to unpaid bodyguard; the draft of men to all the hazardous jobs—or 'death professions.'

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A study of attorneys found that the attorneys whose pictures were judged independently to be the better-looking ones were able to earn about 12% more per year than the less good-looking ones. The better-looking attorneys worked longer hours, but even when that and dozens of other variables were controlled for, the better-looking attorneys were able to bill significantly more per hour. Needless to say, the male attorneys were ranked as much less attractive than the women, increasing the gap in women's pay over men's. The bigger the gap in looks, the bigger was the gap in pay. The more time passed, the more the gap widened. Sometimes life isn't fair.

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