Warren Farrell Quotes

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Schools currently excel in encouraging children to express opinions, but are deficient in encouraging children to say, for example, Oh, that's different from my perspective – tell me more.

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When we look at the pay of men and women who do work equal hours, two discoveries are quite astonishing:
—When women and men work less than 40 hours a week, the women earn more than the men;
—When men and women work more than 40, the men earn more than the women.

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… It is men – far more than women – whose mental capacities are diminished when they are under the influence of a beautiful woman.

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The less our sons our trusted, the less women are able to really love them, and the more women feel entitled to use them as wallets.

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When a man is forced into early retirement, he is often being 'given up for a younger man.' Being forced into early retirement can be to a man what being 'given up for a younger woman' is for a woman… Why do many men get more upset by retirement than women do from the empty nest —when their children leave home? When females retire from children, they can try a career; when a man retires from a career, his children are gone.

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The more a man is trained to be a man, the more he is trained to protect women and children, not hurt women and children. He is trained to volunteer to die before even a stranger is hurt – especially a woman or child.

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When we give trust, we receive trust. And people who trust us pay attention to us.

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Any guy who's played team sports has practiced a skill I call team sport empathy : he's practiced focusing on anticipating the other team's moves. That means figuring out their way of looking at the situation.

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I would suggest that just as women who make it in the world of business need male business mentors, perhaps men who make it in the world of emotions will need female emotional mentors.

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Our choice of partners is perhaps the clearest single statement of our choice of values. Therefore, when we blame our partner for anything, we should really be confronting ourselves. Not as in Yes, I made a bad choice, but as in How does this choice reflect my values?

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Sitcoms routinely portray women hitting men, almost never portray men hitting women. When he fails to leave, it is not called Battered Man Syndrome ; it is called comedy.

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When we speak of mom winning custody or of dad getting visitation time, we speak of someone winning, someone losing. When we speak of mom or dad spending parent time with a child, we speak of two parents, not a parent versus a visitor.

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The empowerment of women lies not in the protection of females from date rape, but in resocializing both sexes to share date initiative taking and date paying so that both date rape and date fraud are minimized. We cannot end date rape by calling men wimps when they don't initiate quickly enough, rapists when they do it too quickly, and jerks when they do it badly. If we increase the performance pressure only for men, we will reinforce men's need to objectify women – which will lead to more rape. Men will be our rapists as long as men are our initiators.… Laws on date rape create a climate of date hate.

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Somehow, women's romance novels are not titled He Stopped When I Said No. They are, though, titled Sweet Savage Love, in which the woman rejects the hand of her gentler lover who saves her from the rapist and marries the man who repeatedly and savagely rapes her. It is this marry the rapist theme that not only turned Sweet Savage Love into a best-seller but also into one of women's most enduring romance novels.

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Deprivation of the beautiful woman and sex with her until the man guarantees economic security in return;

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Crime, especially crime involving money, reflects the gap between the expectation to provide and the ability to provide… If we really want men to commit crime as infrequently as women, we can start by not expecting men to provide for women more than we expect women to provide for men.

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Alan Alda is loved not because he's sensitive, but because he's successful and sensitive.

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When I was doing a book tour in Japan for Why Men Are The Way They Are, I was told of an institution called the snack. The snack works like this: A man is coming home from work, and has had a bad day. He doesn't feel that his wife wants to hear about it, so he pays between $50 and $80 for a snack —a sandwich and a drink and an attractive woman who will listen empathetically to him—sort of a beautiful psychologist with refreshments. No men need apply.

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Although a government study found that men's health was much worse than women's health or the health of any minority group, headlines around the country read: 'Minorities Face Large Health Care Gap.' They did not say: 'Men Face Large Health Care Gap.' Why? Because we associate the sacrifice of men's lives with the saving of the rest of us, and this association leads us to carry in our unconscious an incentive not to care about men living longer.

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All of these battered husbands are still with their wives. When a woman stays with a man who batters, we provide shelters to encourage her to escape. If she decides not to escape, we say she is a victim of Battered Woman Syndrome.

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There is what might be called a Catch-22 of hazardous occupations: The more hazardous the job, the more men; the more men, the less we care about making the job safer. The Catch-22 of hazardous occupations creates a 'glass cellar' which few women wish to enter. Women are alienated not just out of the fear of being hurt on the job, but by an atmosphere that can make a hazardous job more hazardous than it needs to be.

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When we train men for war, we lose some part of every man we train — even if we win the war. When we train men to be better nurturers, even men who fail the course will have won. And so will every child they ever meet. Training men to love is a nation's best investment.

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Dads in the family are even more important than women in the workplace: The workplace benefits from women, but the family needs dads.

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No force is more powerful — or more multiple — than the family.

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Until recently, the question was 'Why can't a woman be more like a man?' It should have been changed to 'Why can't both sexes be more like the best parts of each other?' Instead, the pendulum swung to the 1960s feminist lapel button Adam Was a First Draft. True enough. So are we all.

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