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A man cannot tell whether a woman is in love with him or his security blanket until she is financially and psychologically independent enough to leave. Until a woman has learned how to leave, even she cannot be sure she has learned to love.

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It never occurs to most of us at a moment of disagreement with our partner to take the time to appreciate our partner's positive character strengths as reflected in a stance we disagree with. When we do that, it allows our partner to know that no matter which decision she or he makes, our trust in their underlying character is never in question. It turns every disagreement into a potential gift of love.

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Single women often fear that the men they are going out with wouldn't be comfortable with less career and more child. Perhaps. If a woman selects a man with a lot of career ambition, she'll get what she selected. The solution? Choose among men who would love to be married to a career woman who valued his being home full-time with the children for a few years. Can't find these men? State your interest on your Match. com profile—the Internet's the best net to catch the right fish. You'll be surprised.

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A mother's traditional role prepared her to love her family by being with the family she loved.

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While the label date rape has helped women articulate the most dramatic aspect of dating from women's perspective, men have no labels to help them articulate the most traumatic aspects of dating from their perspective. Now, of course, the most traumatic aspect is the possibility of being accused of date rape by a woman to whom he thought he was making love. If men did label the worst aspects of the traditional male role, though, they might label them date robbery, date rejection, date responsibility, date fraud, and date lying.

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Just as women needed the help of the law to enter the workplace in the 20th century, men will need the help of the law to love their children in the 21st century.

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If the law tries to legislate our yeses and noes it will produce the straitjacket generation – a generation afraid to flirt, fearful of finding its love notes in a court suit. Date rape legislation will force suitors and courting to give way to courts and suing.

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If my parents had made love a tenth of a second earlier or later, I wouldn't exist. What an enormous miracle, just being given life.

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The challenge is shifting our appreciation: being willing to give up some of dad's money for more of dad's love. And, in the process, altering the psyche that makes him lovable.

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Women's liberation and the male midlife crisis were the same search—for personal fulfillment, common values, mutual respect, love. But while women's liberation was thought of as promoting identity, the male midlife crisis was thought of as an identity crisis.

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Somehow, women's romance novels are not titled He Stopped When I Said No. They are, though, titled Sweet Savage Love, in which the woman rejects the hand of her gentler lover who saves her from the rapist and marries the man who repeatedly and savagely rapes her. It is this marry the rapist theme that not only turned Sweet Savage Love into a best-seller but also into one of women's most enduring romance novels.

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The less our sons our trusted, the less women are able to really love them, and the more women feel entitled to use them as wallets.

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If we want our children to have a balance between their abilities to earn money and show love, it will help if both their parents model that balance. – page 114.

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Perhaps the biggest appreciation adjustment we need is toward the millions of men and women we call stepparents. We have taken for granted especially the stepparents who are raising no children of their own, and receiving no income from a significant other, but who have nevertheless chosen to invest love, time and money in children.

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From the male perspective, when commitment is associated with diamonds and mortgages, promises of love can feel like promises of payment.

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When we train men for war, we lose some part of every man we train — even if we win the war. When we train men to be better nurturers, even men who fail the course will have won. And so will every child they ever meet. Training men to love is a nation's best investment.

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A father's traditional role prepared him to love his family by being away from the love of his family.

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Women-in-jeopardy movies are, in essence, the updated versions of men dying to save the princess from the dragon to earn her love. They are modern-day training films for teaching women to select the best protectors while weeding out the rest.

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If there is one quality that I find is more essential to a successful and happy life than any other, it is empathy. It is at the core of family stability and love. I've never had a couple come to me and say, I want a divorce; my partner understands me.

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Our love for children is so immediate in part because we feel their powerlessness immediately; conversely, part of the way we deny our love for men is by denying men's powerlessness. Too often we have confused love for men with respect for them, especially for their power to take care of us—-which is really just love for ourselves.

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Even a 30-year-old man whose wife dies is eleven times more likely to commit suicide than a 30-year-old man whose wife is living. At age 30, when men can bury themselves in their jobs and are physically and financially attractive to women, the loss of the one woman a man loves is so devastating it is often not softened even by the opportunities for many women… in brief, it is the loss of love that devastates men.

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The teenage female has less demand to perform and more resources to attract love. Her body and mind are more genetic gifts.

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Throughout history, men learned that survival, respect and women's love were all achieved by making a killing –whether killing animals, killing enemies, or making a killing on Wall Street. Women received the money that men produced by loving. Men came to feel themselves as unlovable without the money, property or the heroism it took to make them equal to a woman's love. Women came to associate men spending money on them as a statement of how much they were valued—even loved— by the man. Her ability to love became her source of security: a diamond is a girl's best friend. Essentially this dynamic is true in almost all societies and all classes throughout history.

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Men who work to make it as computer whizzes or owners of black Porsches[...] are confused when they're told they are not vulnerable enough. We can't fall in love with men who appear invulnerable and expect vulnerability. Why did he want a black Porsche? Because he never saw an ugly woman get out of one.

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Look under the Love and Friendship section and see dozens of cards designed for women to send to women, most bashing men, and virtually none saying anything loving about men.

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The best way to use these lists to replace anger with love in real life is to nurture each other by doing for your partner what your partner normally does for you.

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Women attempt suicide more often because they want to become the priority of those they love rather than always prioritizing them.

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So while in men's magazines success is a power tool to get sex and love, and therefore the look of success is crucial, in women's magazines love and sex are power tools to get success—and therefore both the look of love and the sexual tease/promise are crucial.

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For thousands of years, most marriages were in Stage I—survival-focused. After World War II, marriages increasingly flirted with Stage II—a self-fulfillment focus... Love's definition is in a transition.

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No legend told its children of beautiful princesses falling in love with conscientious objectors.

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