It never occurs to most of us at a moment of disagreement with our partner to take the time to appreciate our partner's positive character strengths as reflected in a stance we disagree with. When we do that, it allows our partner to know that no matter which decision she or he makes, our trust in their underlying character is never in question. It turns every disagreement into a potential gift of love.

p. 33. - Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)