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Our love for children is so immediate in part because we feel their powerlessness immediately; conversely, part of the way we deny our love for men is by denying men's powerlessness. Too often we have confused love for men with respect for them, especially for their power to take care of us—-which is really just love for ourselves.

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Schools currently excel in encouraging children to express opinions, but are deficient in encouraging children to say, for example, Oh, that's different from my perspective – tell me more.

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The irony of primary parent laws is that on the one hand feminists were arguing for women's equal rights to jointly-created career assets that emanated from the male financial womb, but arguing against men's equal rights to jointly-created children that emanated from the woman's child-bearing womb.

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In a Stage I survival-focused world, a father needed to be a problem-solver. He needed to tough it out by denying feelings. He needed to persuade, argue, debate, set rules, distinguish right from wrong without flexibility. These skills made him eligible, they brought him a wife and children. In every sense of the word, these skills were his relationship language. Problem is, toughing it out fed his loved ones' mouths, but didn't nurture his loved ones' souls.

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Just as women needed the help of the law to enter the workplace in the 20th century, men will need the help of the law to love their children in the 21st century.

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Feminists often discuss women having two jobs: work and children. True. But no one discusses those divorced and remarried men who have three jobs: work, and two sets of children to nurture and financially support.

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If we both ignore the unique contribution of male-style parenting and jail a man who responsibly contributes it, fatherhood becomes another hazardous occupation. More precisely, it becomes the largest 100%-male hazardous occupation. And in the process, our children lose one of the greatest potential gifts of Stage II — genuine fatherhood. That's the bad news. The good news is that there are ways of creating a father and child reunion....

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The more a man is trained to be a man, the more he is trained to protect women and children, not hurt women and children. He is trained to volunteer to die before even a stranger is hurt – especially a woman or child.

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If we penalize mothers for denial of visitation time we must also penalize fathers who don't show up for visitation time. The issue is not fathers' rights to visitation time, but both parents obligations to their children. The issue is how to make both parents real parents despite what parenting was never designed to deal with — divorce.

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When a man is forced into early retirement, he is often being 'given up for a younger man.' Being forced into early retirement can be to a man what being 'given up for a younger woman' is for a woman… Why do many men get more upset by retirement than women do from the empty nest —when their children leave home? When females retire from children, they can try a career; when a man retires from a career, his children are gone.

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Men for whom divorce means walking out of their children's lives except when they choose to see the children are the male equivalent of the adolescent feminists: men who want options without obligations. Morally, they have no right to walk out. A law that allows that is similarly immoral. Primary Parent laws are just such laws.

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Many women are discovering that the motherhood instinct implies a responsibility to be certain children have dads — everyday, not far away; and some are aware that economic independence requires not holding on to her child as if it were her job.

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If we want our children to have a balance between their abilities to earn money and show love, it will help if both their parents model that balance. – page 114.

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Raising children was not designed for single parents. (Which is why divorce was such a taboo prior to birth control.)

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The deeper purpose of a more positive attitude toward men is a better life for the children who are parented by the men who are their dads and stepdads; less shame for our sons who will become men; and, for our daughters, a deeper understanding of men's desire to please that leaves them feeling their willingness to please is not unrequited but returned—allowing our daughters to feel less lonely and more loved. If we earn more and love less, we pay for a home in which we do not live.

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We often hear that mothers do the caring; fathers just do the playing. This is a false dichotomy — even a dangerous one — because fathers' particular style of play involves both a conscious focus on teaching and, as the research is now showing, is instructive to children even when it is not consciously designed to be so.

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Women are socialized to take advantage of four informal options for emotional support: husbands; womenfriends; children; and parents. Men are socialized to take advantage of only one of these informal options: their wife or womanfriend.

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What is the impact on our children of this international Sisterhood is Victimhood bonding?

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From these biased studies come biased social policy. Hundreds of millions of dollars to enforce sanctions against fathers who don't pay mothers; almost nothing to enforce sanctions against mothers who don't allow fathers to see children.

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Visitation reflects the era of the absentee father; parent time influences the re-emergence of the involved father. Visitation reflects the destruction of the family; parent time influences the reconstruction of the family. Parent time influences an era that understands that as either parents loses, so lose the children.

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Our children are better served by speaking not of visitation versus custody, but of parent time.

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The Industrial Revolution, then, took men's occasional absence from home — previously needed only in wartime and for hunting — and made it the norm. This increasing division of labor magnified the division of men's and women's interests. It magnified the belief in the maternal instinct and the reality of the distant father. Prior to industrialization, divorces usually led to children living with dads. Not after.

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By starving our children of men, we have made them more vulnerable to the very abuse we are trying to prevent. – page 97.

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A paucity of funding from private and government sources would be much less a problem if billions of dollars each year were not funding feminist perspectives on men. This funding leads to Women's Studies without Men's Studies; to studies about deadbeat dads, but not dead broke or dead-ended dads — or moms who deny dads access to children, or make false accusations to obtain children.

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Programs like TANF (Temporary Assistance to Needy Families, formerly known as AFDC) and WIC (Women, Infants, and Children) subsidize the exclusion of dads. In effect, they create, as we have seen, future welfare recipients. Or tax spenders.

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In a sense, in the area of child care, children's relationships with parents' working has come full circle. We have gone from the mom-and-pop store (or mom-and-pop farm), with its integration of child care and work, to children-at-home and dad-at-work; to the mom-plus-daddy working at home, with its integration of childcare and work again. From mom-and-pop back to mom-and-pop.

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No legend told its children of beautiful princesses falling in love with conscientious objectors.

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The people considered the most in need of protection were women and children. The sex considered most disposable was men – or males....

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The Male Teacher Corps not only exposes children to men from a variety of professions, but exposes children to men with more risk-taking, entrepreneurial male energy and values, creating a balance between exposure to the male and female value systems.

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Both parents' rights must be in balance so children can grow up with a balance between both parents.

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