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Self-help books for those who believe You can have it all often advise, Follow your bliss and money will follow. With the collapse of the stock markets the reality of trade-offs is more like, When you follow your bliss, it's money you'll miss.

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Unemployment to a man is the psychological equivalent of rape to a woman.

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Sexually, of course, the sexes aren't equal. It is exactly a woman's greater sexual power that often makes a man so fearful of being rejected by her that he buys himself drinks to reduce his fear. In essence, her sexual power often leads to him drinking; his sexual power rarely leads to her drinking. If anything is evidence of her power over him, it is his being expected to spend his money to buy her drinks without her reciprocating.

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Women's liberation and the male midlife crisis were the same search—for personal fulfillment, common values, mutual respect, love. But while women's liberation was thought of as promoting identity, the male midlife crisis was thought of as an identity crisis.

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The challenge is shifting our appreciation: being willing to give up some of dad's money for more of dad's love. And, in the process, altering the psyche that makes him lovable.

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Becoming a human doing was exactly what society needed. But for an individual man, becoming a human doing was his undoing.

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A man fears that conflict with his wife will lead to less intimacy, not more intimacy.

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The weakness of men is the facade of strength; the strength of women is the facade of weakness.

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Gay sex meant two hours of sexual pleasure in exchange for two hours of sexual pleasure. Heterosexual sex meant two hours of sexual pleasure in exchange for a lifetime of responsibility. Heterosexuality was a bad deal! The fear behind homophobia was that no one would be providing for the next generation. Everybody would be having fun. Thus fun became a sign of immaturity; hedonism in many forms became illegal.

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The money men make from their willingness to work the least desirable hours is not a sign of discrimination against women, but a sign of the willingness of mostly married men to lose sleep to support the family as their wife loses sleep to feed the child. A willingness to do the uncomfortable shifts is one reason married men earn more than twice what never-married men earn. Men's contribution, made at night, need not be lost in the dark.

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Any guy who's played team sports has practiced a skill I call team sport empathy : he's practiced focusing on anticipating the other team's moves. That means figuring out their way of looking at the situation.

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When a woman appears to express fear, we cannot assure her without at least releasing her from responsibility; when we interpret the same emotion in a man as anger, we want to blame him and be certain he acknowledges responsibility. We want to find her guiltless; we want to find him guilty.

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If our binoculars search for our partner's best intent, it will usually be found.

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If my parents had made love a tenth of a second earlier or later, I wouldn't exist. What an enormous miracle, just being given life.

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If the law tries to legislate our yeses and noes it will produce the straitjacket generation – a generation afraid to flirt, fearful of finding its love notes in a court suit. Date rape legislation will force suitors and courting to give way to courts and suing.

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The one-sided funding creates one-sided images that reinforce the press defining as progress an examination of only women's issues. Thus, a quarter century's-worth of studies showing domestic violence against men to be more than equal to domestic violence against women receive so little publicity as to barely make a dent on the public's consciousness.

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Most mothers want more of dad in their children's lives, not less.

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Men tuned into women but not tuned into their own hurts usually retained the attitude that women needed special protection.

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As I looked more carefully at the listening matrix I saw that during the past twenty years we had taken a magnifying glass to the first of these four quadrants, the female experience of powerlessness. I saw I was subconsciously making a false assumption: The more deeply I understood women's experience of powerlessness, the more I assumed men had the power women did not have. In fact, what I was understanding was the female experience of male power.

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Helping men express feelings starts with understanding why men don't express them.

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To me, God is the accumulated wisdom I've gathered throughout my life. When I pay attention, my body gives me a printout of this wisdom.

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Sexism is discounting the female experience of powerlessness; the new sexism is discounting the male experience of powerlessness.

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Just as women needed the help of the law to enter the workplace in the 20th century, men will need the help of the law to love their children in the 21st century.

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Men's immediate path from the Insanity Track to the Sanity Track is in demanding that both sexes have the freedom to strike a balance between homeplace and workplace. Men must expect their wives to financially support them to be fathers as much as they now financially support their wives to be mothers. Women must have our approval to marry the warrior of love rather than the warrior of money.

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Unfortunately, the process of gaining money in [a man's] life usually meant alienating the wife in his life. Sometimes this leads to a legal divorce, but more often to a psychological divorce. Which is why a survey of doctors' wives reported in Medical/Mrs. Found the doctors' wives harboring hostility that was 'stunning to behold.' Yet the wives remained married to the doctors. Why? More than anything else, the wives said, they wanted security from marriage… the men, then, were often prostitutes to an illusion of emotional security. At least their wives had the reality of economic security.

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When we commit violence against an infant girl, we call it child abuse; when we commit violence against an infant boy, we call it circumcision.

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Laws with broad definitions of rape are like laws making 55 mile per hour speed limits for men and no speed limits for women.

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It is important that a woman's noes be respected and her yeses be respected. And it is also important when her nonverbal yeses (tongues still touching) conflict with those verbal noes that the man not be put in jail for choosing the yes over the no. He might just be trying to become her fantasy.

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Deprivation of the beautiful woman and sex with her until the man guarantees economic security in return;

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No force is more powerful — or more multiple — than the family.

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