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When we hear men are the greater victims of crime, we tend to say, 'Well, it's men hurting other men.' When we hear that blacks are the greater victims, we consider it racist to say, 'Well, it's blacks hurting blacks.' The victim is a victim no matter who the perpetrator was.

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All of this is men's genetic heritage. However, men's genetic heritage is in conflict with their genetic future.

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Helping women achieve higher pay is a core goal of this book.

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When a dad admits he is wrong or asks for help, he allows the child to see him- or herself as adequate even when she or he is also wrong. It encourages children to make suggestions and, therefore, to discover their creativity because they have a chance of making a contribution. – page 120.

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Sharing instructions about how to perform better for others is very different than sharing feelings about life experiences that make us happy or sad.

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Many black men leave because they are financially responsible—not because they are emotionally irresponsible.

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A man becomes successful by repressing his feelings, not expressing his feelings.

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The deeper purpose of a more positive attitude toward men is a better life for the children who are parented by the men who are their dads and stepdads; less shame for our sons who will become men; and, for our daughters, a deeper understanding of men's desire to please that leaves them feeling their willingness to please is not unrequited but returned—allowing our daughters to feel less lonely and more loved. If we earn more and love less, we pay for a home in which we do not live.

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The sexist perception that violence by anyone against only women is anti-woman while violence by a woman against only men is just generic violence creates a political demand for laws that are even more protective of women.

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People Who Get Higher Pay Require Less Security. ITEM. It's 2004. I am presenting Why Men Earn More to the sales and marketing teams of my publisher (AMACOM). To illustrate financial risk as one of the ways to higher pay, I ask everyone in the room who is paid by commission to stand up. Eight men stand; no women. I then ask those paid by salary to stand: About equal numbers of men and women stand.

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The best-selling magazines to men are Playboy and Penthouse. These represent men's primary fantasy: access to as many beautiful women as desired without risk of rejection. The best-selling magazines to women are Better Homes and Gardens and Family Circle, representing the female primary fantasy: better homes and gardens and a family circle.

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In one decade, women had gotten more protection against offensive jokes in the workplace than men had gotten in centuries against being killed in the workplace.

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Men may be way behind in creating choices for themselves, but have actually been quiet supporters of the choices women want for themselves.

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Imagine how we would feel if I began this section saying, Today, violence against women is rightly applauded. We would know I favored the death of women; when we applaud for violence against men, we favor the death of men. We do it because we have learned that the more effectively we prepare men to sacrifice themselves, the more we are protected.

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Men are still playing protector of women's transitions, and both sexes expect only men to make transitions on their own.

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Feminism has taught women to sue men for sexual harassment or date rape when men initiate with the wrong person or with the wrong timing; no one has taught men to sue women for sexual trauma for saying yes, then no, then yes. … Men [are] still expected to initiate, but now, if they [do] it badly, they could go to jail.

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By attending to the conscious part of ourselves, we contribute to the peace of others as well as ourselves.

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The most unacknowledged spending expectation among women is the amount of time spent by single mothers caring for children, not only physically, but psychologically. It is my feeling that only a small percentage of a mother's time is normally compensated for by child support, given what a woman could make adding these hours to workforce hours… It is why women who have never been married and never had children earn so much more in the workplace than women who have had children.

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We can decrease abuse and murder when we get that for both sexes, abuse does not derive from power, but powerlessness.

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Sexual harassment legislation in its present form makes all men unequal to all women.

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There is little life where no one will listen. These are fathers, sons and families who are needlessly lost.

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In the future, women will increasingly want nurturer-connectors, since part of what he will be nurturing is her ability to protect herself.

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Sexual harassment in the workplace confuses rewards for performance with rewards for attractiveness and sexual availability.

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Sexual Harassment Legislation often creates a hostile environment, an environment of female-as-child.

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[A man's actions] are illegal if a woman decides [it creates a hostile environment], and if a man committed the 'offense'… Who defines 'hostile environment'? The woman. Not even the man's intent makes a legal difference. In all other criminal behavior, intent makes all the difference. Even in homicide. Sexual harassment legislation in its present form makes all man unequal to all women. It is in blatant violation of the Fourteenth Amendment's guarantee of equal protection without regard of sex. Thus the political will to protect only women prevails over the constitutional mandate to protect both sexes equally.

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Divorces led to bodies of men (called legislatures) protecting women collectively as other men (called husbands) failed to protect women individually.

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We are the offspring of approval-seekers. We want approval so badly that we vacillate between conforming to get it and standing out (being outstanding) to get it.

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A paucity of funding from private and government sources would be much less a problem if billions of dollars each year were not funding feminist perspectives on men. This funding leads to Women's Studies without Men's Studies; to studies about deadbeat dads, but not dead broke or dead-ended dads — or moms who deny dads access to children, or make false accusations to obtain children.

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Although a government study found that men's health was much worse than women's health or the health of any minority group, headlines around the country read: 'Minorities Face Large Health Care Gap.' They did not say: 'Men Face Large Health Care Gap.' Why? Because we associate the sacrifice of men's lives with the saving of the rest of us, and this association leads us to carry in our unconscious an incentive not to care about men living longer.

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In brief, our genetic heritage is at odds with our genetic future. For the first time in human history, the qualities it takes to survive as a species are compatible with the qualities it takes to love.

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