Marshall Rosenberg Quotes

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Empathizing with someone's 'no' protects us from taking it personally.

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Empathy: Emptying our mind and listening with our whole being

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With every choice you make, be conscious of what need it serves.

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If people just asked: "Here are the needs of both sides, here are the resources. What can be done to meet these needs?" the conflict would be easy to resolve.

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We are compassionate with ourselves when we are able to embrace all parts of ourselves and recognize the needs and values expressed by each part.

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This objective of getting what we want from other people-or getting them to do what we want them to do-threatens the autonomy of people, their right to choose what they want to do. And whenever people feel that they're not free to choose what they want to do, they are likely to resist, even if they see the purpose in what we are asking and would ordinarily want to do it.

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It's really a spiritual practice that I am trying to show as a way of life.

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The Indian philosopher J. Krishnamurti once remarked that observing without evaluating is the highest form of human intelligence. When I first read this statement, the thought, 'What nonsense!' shot through my mind before I realized that I had just made an evaluation.

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In NVC, no matter what words others may use to express themselves, we simply listen for their observations, feelings, needs, and requests.

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Let's shine the light of consciousness on places where we can hope to find what we are seeking.

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Thinking based on who deserves what blocks compassionate communication.

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We want people to change because they see better ways of meeting their needs at less cost, not because of fear that we're going to punish them, or 'guilt' them if they don't. This applies to ourselves as well.

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Your presence is the most precious gift you can give to another human being.

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Getting in touch with unmet needs is important to the healing process.

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NVC requires us to be continually conscious of the beauty within ourselves and other people.

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We want to take action out of the desire to contribute to life rather than out of fear, guilt, shame, or obligation.

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Empathy is a respectful understanding of what others are experiencing.

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Our ability to offer empathy can allow us to stay vulnerable, defuse potential violence, help us hear the word 'no' without taking it as a rejection, revive lifeless conversation, and even hear the feelings and needs expressed through silence.

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Time and again, people transcend the paralyzing effects of psychological pain when they have sufficient contact with someone who can hear them empathically.

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My need is for safety, fun and to have distribution of resources, a sustainable life on the planet. NVC is a strategy that serves me to meet these needs.

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Judgments of others contribute to self-fulfilling prophecies.

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The punitive use of force tends to generate hostility and to reinforce resistance to the very behavior we are seeking.

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What others do may be the stimulus of our feelings, but never the cause.

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It's harder to empathize with those who appear to possess more power, status, or resources.

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What evidence is there that we've adequately empathized with the other person? First, when an individual realizes that everything going on within has received full empathic understanding, they will experience a sense of relief. We can become aware of this phenomenon by noticing a corresponding release of tension in our own body.

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As long as I think I 'should' do it, I'll resist it, even if I want very much to do it.

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Some people use NVC to respond compassionately to themselves, some to create greater depth in their personal relationships, and still others to build effective relationships at work or in the political arena. Worldwide, NVC is used to mediate disputes and conflicts at all levels.

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NVC helps us connect with each other and ourselves in a way that allows our natural compassion to flourish.

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We are dangerous when we are not conscious of our responsibility for how we behave, think, and feel.

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Analyses of others are actually expressions of our own needs and values

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