Marshall Rosenberg - Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life (1998)

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We are never angry because of what others say or do. It is our thinking that makes us angry.

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What evidence is there that we've adequately empathized with the other person? First, when an individual realizes that everything going on within has received full empathic understanding, they will experience a sense of relief. We can become aware of this phenomenon by noticing a corresponding release of tension in our own body.

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It's harder to empathize with those who appear to possess more power, status, or resources.

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What others do may be the stimulus of our feelings, but never the cause.

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The punitive use of force tends to generate hostility and to reinforce resistance to the very behavior we are seeking.

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Judgments of others contribute to self-fulfilling prophecies.

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Time and again, people transcend the paralyzing effects of psychological pain when they have sufficient contact with someone who can hear them empathically.

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Our ability to offer empathy can allow us to stay vulnerable, defuse potential violence, help us hear the word 'no' without taking it as a rejection, revive lifeless conversation, and even hear the feelings and needs expressed through silence.

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Empathy is a respectful understanding of what others are experiencing.

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Empathizing with someone's 'no' protects us from taking it personally.

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We want to take action out of the desire to contribute to life rather than out of fear, guilt, shame, or obligation.

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What I want in my life is compassion
a flow between myself and others
based on mutual giving from the heart.

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The intention behind the protective use of force is to prevent injury, never to punish or to cause individuals to suffer, repent or change.

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Some people use NVC to respond compassionately to themselves, some to create greater depth in their personal relationships, and still others to build effective relationships at work or in the political arena. Worldwide, NVC is used to mediate disputes and conflicts at all levels.

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By maintaining our attention on what's going on within others, we offer them a chance to fully explore and express their interior selves. We would stem this flow if we were to shift attention too quickly either to their request or to our own desire to express ourselves.

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People do not hear our pain when they believe they are at fault.

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Empathize with silence by listening for the feelings and needs behind it.

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Most of us grew up speaking a language that encourages us to label, compare, demand, and pronounce judgments rather than to be aware of what we are feeling and needing.

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I find that my cultural conditioning leads me to focus attention on places where I am unlikely to get what I want. I developed NVC as a way to train my attention-to shine the light of consciousness-on places that have the potential to yield what I am seeking.

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With every choice you make, be conscious of what need it serves.

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Let's shine the light of consciousness on places where we can hope to find what we are seeking.

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In NVC, no matter what words others may use to express themselves, we simply listen for their observations, feelings, needs, and requests.

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The Indian philosopher J. Krishnamurti once remarked that observing without evaluating is the highest form of human intelligence. When I first read this statement, the thought, 'What nonsense!' shot through my mind before I realized that I had just made an evaluation.

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Thinking based on who deserves what blocks compassionate communication.

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Empathy: Emptying our mind and listening with our whole being

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