If we taught men to repress feelings and rewarded him instead for being a captain he might be willing to die to protect us; if we paid him enough to feed his family if he worked in a coal mine, he might be willing to die sooner to keep us warm. But all that required him to forfeit his feelings – his power as a human being – and substitute it for power as a human doing: feeling obligated to earn money someone else spent while he died sooner.

Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say (2000)