I know whether or not I am confused most readily by noticing--being mindful of--my capacity for feeling caring concern.... when I feel myself in caring connection--encouraging, consoling, or appreciating--I feel the twin pleasures of clarity and goodness. It doesn't matter if the connection I feel is to myself or a person I know or people I don't know or even the whole world. The lively impulse of caring is what counts. [p. 20]

Happiness Is an Inside Job: Practicing for a Joyful Life (ed. Ballantine Books, 2008) - ISBN: 9780345513014