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Letting go means we stop trying to force outcomes and make people behave. It means we give up resistance to the way things are, for the moment. It means we stop trying to do the impossible-controlling that which we cannot-and instead, focus on what is possible-which usually means taking care of ourselves. And we do this in gentleness, kindness, and love, as much as possible.
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Furthermore, worrying about people and problems doesn't help. It doesn't solve problems, it doesn't help other people, and it doesn't help us. It is wasted energy.
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Embrace and love all of yourself - past, present, and future. Forgive yourself quickly and as often as necessary. Encourage yourself. Tell yourself good things about yourself.
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Gratitude turns negative energy into positive energy. There is no situation or circumstance so small or large that it is not susceptible to gratitude's power.
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Whatever we try to control does have control over us and our life.
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We don't just get our choice; we get the consequence that choice creates.
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I know when to say no and when to say yes. I take responsibility for my choices. The victim? She went somewhere else. The only one who can truly victimize me is myself, and 99 percent of the time I choose to do that no more. But I need to continue to remember the key principles: boundaries, letting go, forgiveness after feeling my feelings—not before, self-expression, loving others but loving myself, too.
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Few situations — no matter how greatly they appear to demand it — can be bettered by us going beserk.
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Make New Year's goals. Dig within, and discover what you would like to have happen in your life this year. This helps you do your part. It is an affirmation that you're interested in fully living life in the year to come.
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Gratitude helps us stop trying to control outcomes. It is the key that unlocks positive energy in our life. It is the alchemy that turns problems into blessings, and the unexpected into gifts.
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We don't have to do it any better than we can — ever. Do our best for the moment, then let it go. If we have to redo it, we can do our best in another moment, later.
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If that person doesn't want to be in your life, just let him or her leave.
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Even if the most important person in your world rejects you, you are still real, and you are still okay.
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Resentments are hardened chunks of anger. They loosen up and dissolve with forgiveness and letting go.
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It's not what we don't know that hurts us, people say. It's what we believe is true that isn't that does the damage.
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If we are unhappy without a relationship, we'll probably be unhappy with one as well. A relationship doesn't begin our life; a relationship doesn't become our life. A relationship is a continuation of life.
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I've learned that I have many, many soul mates here, and they come to me at the right time and in the right place. They come to help me when I'm lost, and each comes with different sets of lessons for me — usually, always, my most intense lessons — the ones my soul came here to learn.
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Nurtured, nourished people, who love themselves and care for themselves, are the delight of the Universe.
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Anger is a warning signal. It points to problems.
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It's so easy to look around and notice what's wrong. It takes practice to see what's right.
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When we don't ask for what we want and need, we discount ourselves.
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Caring works. Caretaking doesn't. We can learn to walk the line between the two.
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Today I will let go of my need for approval and my need to be liked. Instead, I will choose to like and approve of myself. The people who count (including me) will respect me when I'm true to who I really am.
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Melody Beattie
Born:
July 2, 1948
(age 75)
Bio:
Melody Beattie is an American author of self-help books on codependent relationships.
Known for:
Codependent No More (1986)
The Language of Letting Go (1990)
Beyond Codependency (1989)
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