Melody Beattie - People Quotes

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Furthermore, worrying about people and problems doesn't help. It doesn't solve problems, it doesn't help other people, and it doesn't help us. It is wasted energy.

Melody Beattie
Letting go means we stop trying to force outcomes and make people behave. It means we give up resistance to the way things are, for the moment. It means we stop trying to do the impossible-controlling that which we cannot-and instead, focus on what is possible-which usually means taking care of ourselves. And we do this in gentleness, kindness, and love, as much as possible.

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The more we learn to love and respect ourselves, the more we will become attracted to people who will love and respect us and who we can safely love and respect.

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What's a codependent? The answer's easy. They're some of the most loving, caring people I know.

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I used to spend so much time reacting and responding to everyone else that my life had no direction. Other people's lives, problems, and wants set the course for my life. Once I realized it was okay for me to think about and identify what I wanted, remarkable things began to take place in my life.

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I saw people who were hostile; they had felt so much hurt that hostility was their only defense against being crushed again.

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Today I will let go of my need for approval and my need to be liked. Instead, I will choose to like and approve of myself. The people who count (including me) will respect me when I'm true to who I really am.

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Nurtured, nourished people, who love themselves and care for themselves, are the delight of the Universe.

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It's not what we don't know that hurts us, people say. It's what we believe is true that isn't that does the damage.

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The lesson I was learning involved the idea that I could feel compassion for people without acting on it.

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There are no knights on white horses, no magical grandmothers in the sky watching, waiting to rescue us. Teachers may come our way, but they will not rescue. They will teach. People who care will come, but they will not rescue. They will care. Help will come, but help is not rescuing. We are our own rescuers. Our relationships will improve dramatically when we stop rescuing others and stop expecting them to rescue us.

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Living our lives may not be an exciting prospect to some of us either. Maybe we've been so wrapped up in other people that we've forgotten how to live and enjoy our lives.

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Guilt can prevent us from setting the boundaries that would be in our best interests, and in other peoples best interests.

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The surest way to make ourselves crazy is to get involved in other people's business, and the quickest way to become sane and happy is to tend to our own affairs.

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