Mark Epstein Quotes

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Desire is a teacher: When we immerse ourselves in it without guilt, shame, or clinging, it can show us something special about our own minds that allows us to embrace life fully.

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If aspects of the person remain undigested-cut off, denied, projected, rejected, indulged, or otherwise unassimilated-they become the points around which the core forces of greed, hatred and delusion attach themselves.

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It is exceedingly difficult to maintain a sense of absence without turning that absence into some kind of presence

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The central premise of this book is that the Western psychological notion of what it means to have a self is flawed.

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Buddhism teaches us that happiness does not come from any kind of acquisitiveness, be it material or psychological. Happiness comes from letting go. In Buddhism, the impenetrable, separate, and individuated self is more of the problem than the solution.

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Anxiety and desire are two, often conflicting, orientations to the unknown. Both are tilted toward the future. Desire implies a willingness, or a need, to engage this unknown, while anxiety suggests a fear of it. Desire takes one out of oneself, into the possibility or relationship, but it also takes one deeper into oneself. Anxiety turns one back on oneself, but only onto the self that is already known.

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The picture we present to ourselves of who we think we ought to be obscures who we really are.

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Meditation is not a means of forgetting the ego; it is a method of using the ego to observe and tame its own manifestations.

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Depressed people think they know themselves, but maybe they only know depression.

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In building a path through the self to the far shore of awareness, we have to carefully pick our way through our own wilderness. If we can put our minds into a place of surrender, we will have an easier time feeling the contours of the land. We do not have to break our way through as much as we have to find our way around the major obstacles. We do not have to cure every neurosis, we just have to learn how not to be caught by them.

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When we seek happiness through accumulation, either outside of ourselves-from other people, relationships, or material goods-or from our own self-development, we are missing the essential point. In either case we are trying to find completion. But according to Buddhism, such a strategy is doomed. Completion comes not from adding another piece to ourselves but from surrendering our ideas of perfection.

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We are looking for a way to feel more real, but we do not realize that to feel more real we have to push ourselves further into the unknown.

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To be free, to come to terms with our lives, we have to have a direct experience of ourselves as we really are, warts and all.

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Meditation did not relieve me of my anxiety so much as flesh it out. It took my anxious response to the world, about which I felt a lot of confusion and shame, and let me understand it more completely. Perhaps the best way to phrase it is to say that meditation showed me that the other side of anxiety is desire. They exist in relationship to each other, not independently.

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There is a yearning that is as spiritual as it is sensual. Even when it degenerates into addiction, there is something salvageable from the original impulse that can only be described as sacred. Something in the person (dare we call it a soul?) wants to be free, and it seeks its freedom any way it can.... There is a drive for transcendence that is implicit in even the most sensual of desires.

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To free desire from the tendency to cling, we have to be willing to stumble over ourselves.

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As my Buddhist teachers have shown me, wisdom emerges in the space around words as much as from language itself.

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