Most people think things are not real unless they are spoken, that it's the uttering of something, not the thinking of it, that legitimizes it. I suppose this is why people always want other people to say "I love you." I think just the opposite—that thoughts are realest when thought, that expressing them distorts or dilutes them.
Someday This Pain Will Be Useful to You: A Novel (ed. Macmillan, 2009) - ISBN: 9781429927130