Letty Cottin Pogrebin Quotes

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We need old friends to help us grow old and new friends to help us stay young.

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Although Freud said happiness is composed of love and work, reality often forces us to choose love or work.

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If family violence teaches children that might makes right at home, how will we hope to cure the futile impulse to solve worldly conflicts with force?

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As the mother of a son, I do not accept that alienation from me is necessary for his discovery of himself. As a woman, I will not cooperate in demeaning womanly things so that he can be proud to be a man. I like to think the women in my son's future are counting on me.

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If the Richter scale could measure human calamities, the loss of a child would register a ten.

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Illness is friendship's proving ground, the uncharted territory where one's actions may be the least sure-footed but also the most indelible.

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We mothers are learning to mark our mothering success by our daughters' lengthening flight.

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The High Holy Days of my childhood... embodied the very essence of new beginnings; for autumn, not spring, was when everything was new: my clothes, my classroom, books, pencil box, teachers — and Jewish chronology, which decreed a fresh start, a clean slate, a chance to improve on the past.

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When a family is free of abuse and oppression, it can be the place where we share our deepest secrets and stand the most exposed, a place where we learn to feel distinct without being better, - and sacrifice for others without losing ourselves.

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America is a nation fundamentally ambivalent about its children, often afraid of its children, and frequently punitive toward its children.

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Illness tests old friendships, gives rise to new ones, changes the dynamics of a relationship, causes a shift in the power balance, a reversal of roles, and assorted weird behaviors.

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I want to visit Memory Lane, I don't want to live there.

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A toy has no gender and no idea of whether a girl or boy is playing with it.

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In the last analysis, friendship is what you say it is.

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I find it profoundly symbolic that I am appearing before a committee of fifteen men who will report to a legislative body of one hundred men because of a decision handed down by a court comprised of nine men--on an issue that affects millions of women.... I have the feeling that if men could get pregnant, we wouldn't be struggling for this legislation. If men could get pregnant, maternity benefits would be as sacrosanct as the G.I. Bill.

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Like many another romance, the romance of the family turns sour when the money runs out. If we really cared about families, we would not let 'born again' patriarchs send up moral abstractions as a smokescreen for the scandal of American family economics.

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Compared to other parents, remarried parents seem more desirous of their child's approval, more alert to the child's emotional state, and more sensitive in their parent-child relations. Perhaps this is the result of heightened empathy for the child's suffering, perhaps it is a guilt reaction; in either case, it gives the child a potent weapon--the power to disrupt the new household and come between parent and the new spouse.

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Much is made of the accelerating brutality of young people's crimes, but rarely does our concern for dangerous children translateinto concern for children in danger. We fail to make the connection between the use of force on children themselves, and violent antisocial behavior, or the connection between watching father batter mother and the child deducing a link between violence and masculinity.

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The ultra-right would have us believe that families are in trouble because of humanism, feminism, secular education, or sexual liberation, but the consensus of Americans is that what tears families apart is unemployment, inflation, and financial worries.

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Friends seem to be like aspirin; we don't really know why they make a sick person feel better, but they do.

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The risk for a woman who considers her helpless children her "job" is that the children's growth toward self-sufficiency may be experienced as a refutation of the mother's indispensability, and she may unconsciously sabotage their growth as a result.

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If knowledge is power, clandestine knowledge is power squared; it can be withheld, exchanged, and leveraged.

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Other than life experience, nothing left a deeper imprint on my formative self than the movies.

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It's smart to be friends with one's sex partner but dumb to have sex with one's friends.

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Housework is the only activity at which men are allowed to be consistently inept because they are thought to be so competent at everything else.

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If the family were a boat, it would be a canoe that makes no progress unless everyone paddles.

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Control is a big issue when you're sick. It's the first thing you lose — other losses come later.

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Her [mother's] constant care blurs into the maternal mists while his [father's] few alcohol rubs are as memorable as if they were anointments by a prophet.

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Why hope to live a long life if we're only going to fill it with self-absorption, body maintenance and image repair? When we die, do we want people to exclaim 'She looked ten years younger,' or do we want them to say 'She lived a great life'?

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It angers me that sick people have to wait for everything and everybody — doctors, nurses, callbacks, lab results, prescriptions, medications, technicians, treatment rooms. If illness is the embodiment of powerlessness, which, believe me, is true, then waiting is its temporal incarnation.

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