That's one of the things Yardem used to tell me that actually made sense. He said that you don't go through grief like it was a chore to be done. You can't push and get finished quicker. The best you can do is change the way you always do, and the time comes when you aren't the same person who was in pain.
The Dragon's Path: Book 1 of The Dagger and the Coin (ed. Hachette UK, 2011) - ISBN: 9780748126392