Byron Katie Quotes

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You might believe that it's only for their own good, but how does it feel when you try to manipulate the people you love? Are you teaching them that your love is conditional? Maybe through inquiry we can find another way.

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If I had a prayer, it would be this: God spare me from the desire for love, approval, and appreciation. Amen.

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Peace doesn't require two people; it requires only one. It has to be you. The problem begins and ends there.

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The only time we suffer is when we believe a thought that argues with what is. When the mind is perfectly clear, what is is what we want.

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It makes sense that no one else can cause you pain. That's your job.

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Here's how a child listens: you tell him something, and he puts his own interpretation on what you said. That's what he hears. No one has ever heard you.

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Inquiry appears to be a process of thinking, but actually it's a way to undo thinking. Thoughts lose their power over us when we realize that they simply appear in the mind. They're not personal. Through The Work, instead of escaping or suppressing our
thoughts, we learn to meet them with unconditional love and understanding.

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Stories are the untested, uninvestigated theories that tell us what all these things mean. We don't even realize that they're just theories.

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When a thought hurts, that's the signal that it isn't true.

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So what is it with your mother that you haven't worked out yet?

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Any story that you tell about yourself causes suffering. There is no authentic story.

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Depression, pain, and fear are gifts that say, "Sweetheart, take a look at your thinking in this moment. You're living in a story that isn't true for you." Living a lie is always stressful. And investigating a lie through The Work always leads you back to who you are. Who you are is not an option. You are love. It hurts to believe you're other than who you are, to live any story less than love.

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Mind changes, and as a result, the world changes. A clear mind heals everything that needs to be healed.

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A lover of what is looks forward to everything: life, death, disease, loss, earthquakes, bombs, anything the mind might be tempted to call 'bad.' Life will bring us everything we need, to show us what we haven't undone yet. Nothing outside ourselves can make us suffer. Except for our unquestioned thoughts, every place is paradise.

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There is no story that is you or that leads to you. Every story leads away from you.

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Your understanding of another person is limited by what you think you already know. So when you just listen, the person you meet won't match your preconception. The exciting thing is that you usually meet someone much wiser and kinder than you expected. You might also lose track of your ideas about who you are.

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Everyone has equal wisdom. It is absolutely equally distributed. No one is wiser than anyone else.

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When you're focused outside and believe that your problem is caused by someone else, rather than by your attachment to the story you're believing in the moment, then you are your own victim, and the situation appears to be hopeless.

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I realized that it's insane to oppose it. When I argue with reality, I lose-but only 100% of the time. How do I know that the wind should blow? It's blowing!

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Happiness is a clear mind. A clear and sane mind knows how to live, how to work, what emails to send, what phone calls to make, and what to do do to create what it wants without fear.

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The best way of leading people is to let them find their own way.

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Nothing belongs to me. Everything comes and goes. Serenity is an open door.

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You've never reacted to someone else. You project meaning onto nothing. And you react to the meaning you've projected

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Any stressful thought that you have about the planet, for example, shows you where you are stuck, where your energy is being exhausted in not fully meeting life as it is, without condition.

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If you knew how important you are, you would fragment into a billion pieces and just be light.

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Whenever you think that your needs are not being met, you're telling the story of a future

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It's not possible to have a problem without believing a prior thought. To notice this simple truth is the beginning of peace.

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Thinking that people are supposed to do or be anything other than what they are is like saying that the tree over there should be the sky. I investigated that and found freedom.

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It's difficult to seek other people's love. It's deadly. In seeking it you lose what is genuine. This is the prison we create for ourselves as we seek what we already have.

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I've heard people say that they cling to their painful thoughts because they're afraid that without them they wouldn't be activists for peace. "If I feel peaceful," they say, "why would I bother taking action at all?"

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