As soon as you direct such a question outward to your fellow man and not inward to yourself, you have set yourself on a judgment seat and thereby judged yourself. You have robbed yourself of what you had won by your own continence; you have taken one step forward but ten backward: and then you have reason to weep over your obstinacy, your failure to improve, and your pride.

Way of the Ascetics: The Ancient Tradition of Discipline and Inner Growth (ed. St Vladimir's Seminary Press, 1982) - ISBN: 9780881410495