Selma Fraiberg Quote

We find that even the parents who justify spanking to themselves are defensive and embarrassed about it....I suspect that deep inthe memory of every parent are the feelings that had attended his own childhood spankings, the feelings of humiliation, of helplessness, of submission through fear. The parent who finds himself spanking his own child cannot dispel the ghosts of his own childhood.

The Magic Years: Understanding and Handling the Problems of Early Childhood (ed. Simon and Schuster, 2015) - ISBN: 9781501122828