Self-awareness and self-consciousness are entirely different. When I am self-conscious, it is really someone else's eyes that are watching, judging, and criticizing me. … It is these eyes that must be put out if I am to make sense of and remain in touch with my true self. And when we fail to find symbolic ways of destroying the watchers by becoming our own true witness, then the parents or authorities are sometimes literally killed.

p. 136 - The Passionate Life (1983)