To seek approval is to have no resting place, no sanctuary. Like all judgement, approval encourages a constant striving. It makes us uncertain of who we are and of our true value. Approval cannot be trusted. It can be withdrawn at any time no matter what our track record has been. It is as nourishing of real growth as cotton candy. Yet many of us spend our lives pursuing it.
Kitchen Table Wisdom: Stories that Heal, 10th Anniversary Edition (ed. Penguin, 2006) - ISBN: 9781101655238