In some instances, you may care so much about the person who has hurt you, or be so unable to be angry with him (or with anyone), that you rationalize his hurtful acts by finding some basis in your own actions for his hurtful behavior; you then feel guilty rather than angry. Put in other terms, you become angry with yourself rather than with the one who hurt you.

Unmasking the Face: A Guide to Recognizing Emotions from Facial Clues (ed. ISHK, 2003) - ISBN: 9781883536367