... it was in her refusal to allow any of us to indulge in self-pity of any kind... through a maddening style of argument, in which the following three statements were repeated in various sequences:
A. It's your life + social commentary.
B. What you want and what you get are usually two entirely different things.
C. No one ever said that life was fair.
Nicholas Sparks about his mother Jill Sparks, Chapter 8, p. 127 - Three Weeks with My Brother (2004)