When we love another, we never ever seek to limit or restrict them in any way whatsoever. Love says, "My will for you is your will for you." Love says, "I choose for you what you choose for you." When I say, "I choose for you what I choose for you," then I'm not loving you. I'm loving me through you, because I'm getting what I want, rather than seeing you get what you want.
Applications for Living: Holistic Living, Relationships, Abundance and Right Livelihood (ed. Hachette UK, 1999) - ISBN: 9781444708721