The central attitudes driving the Water Torturer are:
You are crazy. You fly off the handle over nothing.
I can easily convince other people that you're the one who is messed up.
As long as I'm calm, you can't call anything I do abusive, no matter how cruel.
I know exactly how to get under your skin.

Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men (ed. Penguin, 2003) - ISBN: 9781101220733