The need to become a separate self is as urgent as the yearning to merge forever. And as long as we, not our mother, initiate parting, and as long as our mother remains reliably there, it seems possible to risk, and even to revel in, standing alone.
Necessary Losses: The Loves Illusions Dependencies and Impossible Ex (ed. Simon and Schuster, 2010) - ISBN: 9781439134863