Our father presents an optional set of rhythms and responses for us to connect to. As a second home base, he makes it safer to roam. With him as an ally--a love--it is safer, too, to show that we're mad when we're mad at our mother. We can hate and not be abandoned, hate and still love.

Necessary Losses: The Loves Illusions Dependencies and Impossible Ex (ed. Simon and Schuster, 2010) - ISBN: 9781439134863