It is very tempting to take the side of the perpetrator. All the perpetrator asks is that the bystander do nothing. He appeals to the universal desire to see, hear, and speak no evil. The victim, on the contrary, asks the bystander to share the burden of pain. The victim demands action, engagement, and remembering.

Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence--From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror (ed. Basic Books, 2015) - ISBN: 9780465098736