The second commandment that Jesus referred to was not to love others instead of ourselves, but to love them as ourselves. Before we can love and serve others, we must love ourselves, even in our imperfection. If we don't embrace our own defects, we can't love others with their shortcomings.

Aspirations of Greatness: Mapping the Mid-Life Leaders Reconnection to Self and Soul (ed. Wiley, 2002)