Be loved. Be known. Love people and know people. Be so brave as to raise a hand for help when you need it. Make friends and make sure they know they matter. Be loyal to them and fight for them. Remind them what's true and invite them to do the same when you forget. If you do some losing or you walk with someone else in their defeat, live with dignity and grace. It is the middle finger to the darkness.
If You Feel Too Much: Thoughts on Things Found and Lost and Hoped For (ed. Penguin, 2015) - ISBN: 9780698409354