James Hollis Quotes

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We best serve intimate relationship by becoming sufficiently developed in ourselves that we do not need to feed off others.

James Hollis
Is not our chief neurosis - by which I mean our estrangement from nature - our desire to hold fast to what is forever transforming, to freeze the familiar, to submit motion to stasis, to solicit immortality through rigidity.

James Hollis
The act of consciousness is central; otherwise we are overrun by the complexes.
The hero in each of us is required to answer the call of individuation.
We must turn away from the cacaphony of the outerworld to hear the inner voice.
When we can dare to live its promptings, then we achieve personhood.
We may become strangers to those who thought they knew us, but at least we are no longer strangers to ourselves.

James Hollis
As children we listened to the sound of the sea still echoing in the shell we picked up by the shore. That ancestral roar links us to the great sea which surges within us as well.

James Hollis
The capacity for growth depends on one's ability to internalize and to take personal responsibility. If we forever see our life as a problem caused by others, a problem to be 'solved,' then no change will occur.

James Hollis
The truth about intimate relationships is that they can never be any better than our relationship with ourselves.

James Hollis
Learning to live with ambiguity is learning to live with how life really is, full of complexities and strange surprises..:

James Hollis
There is some debate in professional circles about whether the so-called midlife crisis exists.

James Hollis
The goal of individuation is wholeness, as much as we can accomplish, not the triumph of the ego.

James Hollis
Anger is generally seen as an unwelcome presence in our midst, however natural it may be. Although each person, and each society, is charged with how anger is to be appropriately channeled, the denial of anger, or its continuous repression, is a deep source of our psychopathology and will invariably seek its expression in a less healthful fashion.

James Hollis
The world is more magical, less predictable, more autonomous, less controllable, more varied, less simple, more infinite, less knowable, more wonderfully troubling than we could have imagined being able to tolerate when we were young.

James Hollis