The only relationship we can have in this life is the relationship we have with ourselves. We cannot love anybody more than we love ourselves. We cannot treat anyone any better than we treat ourselves. When you forget you, give up on you, or devalue yourself, anyone coming into your life has a universal responsibility to follow your lead.

Value in the Valley: A Black Woman's Guide through Life's Dilemmas (ed. Simon and Schuster, 2002) - ISBN: 9780743226479