Gavin de Becker Quote

We must learn and then teach our children that niceness does not equal goodness. Niceness is a decision, a strategy of social interaction; it is not a character trait. People seeking to control others almost always present the image of a nice person in the beginning.


The Gift of Fear: Survival Signals that Protect Us from Violence (ed. Dell Publishing Company, 1998)


We must learn and then teach our children that niceness does not equal goodness. Niceness is a decision, a strategy of social interaction; it is not...

We must learn and then teach our children that niceness does not equal goodness. Niceness is a decision, a strategy of social interaction; it is not...

We must learn and then teach our children that niceness does not equal goodness. Niceness is a decision, a strategy of social interaction; it is not...

We must learn and then teach our children that niceness does not equal goodness. Niceness is a decision, a strategy of social interaction; it is not...