We must be willing to change chairs if we want to grow. There is no permanent compatibility between a chair and a person. And there is no one right chair. What is right at one stage may be restricting at another or too soft. During the passage from one stage to another, we will be between two chairs. Wobbling no doubt, but developing.
Passages: Predictable Crises of Adult Life (ed. Penguin, 2013) - ISBN: 9780698138667