Our ability to fall in love requires enough comfort with our masculinity to join it with someone's femininity and feel enhanced.... If our mother made us feel secure and proud in our masculinity, then we want to find that again in our wife. If we are really comfortable with our mother, we can even marry a woman who is a friend rather than an adversary, and form a true partnership.

Man Enough: Fathers, Sons, and the Search for Masculinity (ed. Penguin, 1994) - ISBN: 9780399518836