Every boy was supposed to come into the world equipped with a father whose prime function was to be our father and show us how tobe men. He can escape us, but we can never escape him. Present or absent, dead or alive, real or imagined, our father is the main man in our masculinity.
Man Enough: Fathers, Sons, and the Search for Masculinity (ed. Penguin, 1994) - ISBN: 9780399518836