We long for our father. We wear his clothes, and actually try to fill his shoes.... We hang on to him, begging him to teach ushow to do whatever is masculine, to throw balls or be in the woods or go see where he works.... We want our fathers to protect us from coming too completely under the control of our mothers.... We want to be seen with Dad, hanging out with men and doing men things.

Man Enough: Fathers, Sons, and the Search for Masculinity (ed. Penguin, 1994) - ISBN: 9780399518836