One cannot really know an other without intimacy. Detached, objective observations alone leave a surface upon which it is too easy to project one's own image or fantasies. In intimacy, one respectfully interacts with the other, invites the penetration of the other, enters into a common effort, and then the strange and distinct contours of self and other become more apparent.
Intimate Nature: The Bond Between Women and Animals (ed. Ballantine Books, 1999) - ISBN: 9780449003008