The way you argued with me, you would have thought that we were debating the existence of God or whether or not we should move in together. These kinds of fights can never be won – even if you're the victor, you've hurt the other person, and there has to be some loss associated with that.

The Lover's Dictionary: A Novel (ed. Farrar, Straus and Giroux, 2011) - ISBN: 9781429994309