Byron Katie - Loving what is (2002)

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Stories are the untested, uninvestigated theories that tell us what all these things mean. We don't even realize that they're just theories.

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It makes sense that no one else can cause you pain. That's your job.

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The only time we suffer is when we believe a thought that argues with what is. When the mind is perfectly clear, what is is what we want.

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Peace doesn't require two people; it requires only one. It has to be you. The problem begins and ends there.

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If I had a prayer, it would be this: God spare me from the desire for love, approval, and appreciation. Amen.

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You might believe that it's only for their own good, but how does it feel when you try to manipulate the people you love? Are you teaching them that your love is conditional? Maybe through inquiry we can find another way.

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No one has ever been angry at another human being—we're only angry at our story of them.

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I could find only three kinds of business in the world—mine, yours, and God's. Whose business are you in?

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Do you know anyone who hasn't changed his mind? This door was a tree, then it will be firewood for someone, then it will return to air and earth. We're all like that, constantly changing. It's simply honest to report that you've changed your mind when you have. When you're afraid of what people will think if you speak honestly, that's where you become confused.

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I'm a lover of what is, not because I'm a spiritual person, but because it hurts when I argue with reality.

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Reality is always kinder than the story we tell about it.

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Forgiveness is realizing that what you thought happened, didn't.

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When I argue with reality, I lose—but only 100% of the time.

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How do I know that I don't need what I want? I don't have it.

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When you think that someone or something other than yourself needs to change, you're mentally out of your business.

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We never make a decision. When the time is right, the decision makes itself.

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I came to see that there was nothing to forgive, that I was the one who caused my own problems.

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You are what exists before all stories. You are what remains when the story is understood.

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I have discovered that in every language and every country I have visited, there are no new stories. They're all recycled. The same stressful thoughts arise in each mind one way or another, sooner or later.

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When I walk into a room, I know that everyone in it loves me. I just don't expect them to realize it yet.

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Whatever it takes for you to find your freedom, that's what you've lived.

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What is is. You don't get a vote. Haven't you noticed?

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Nothing terrible has ever happened except in our thinking. Reality is always good, even in situations that seem like nightmares. The story we tell is the only nightmare that we have lived.

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You can't drop concepts. You can only shine a little flashlight on them as you do inquiry, an you see that what you thought was true wasn't. And when the truth is seen, there's nothing you can do to make the lie true for you again.

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We don't attach to people or to things; we attach to uninvestigated concepts that we believe to tbe true in the moment.

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That's the purpose of stress. It's a friend. It's an alarm clock, built in to let you know that it's time to do The Work.

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The greatest stock market you can invest in is yourself. Finding this truth is better than finding a gold mine.

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You are your only hope, because we're not changing until you do. Our job is to keep coming at you, as hard as we can, with everything that angers, upsets, or repulses you, until you understand. We love you that much, whether we're aware of it or not. The whole world is about you.

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Is it true?
Can you absolutely know that it's true?
How do you react when you believe that thought?
Who would you be without the thought?

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You move totally away from reality when you believe that there is a legitimate reason to suffer.

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