That something happened to you is of no importance to anyone, not even to you. The important thing about you is what you choose to make happen - your values and choices. That which happened by accident - what family you were born into, in what country, and where you went to school - is totally unimportant....
The Art of Fiction: A Guide for Writers and Readers (ed. Penguin, 2000) - ISBN: 9781101137239